Surprise! I'm Getting Married!
Yes, you read that correctly! I am honestly still a little shocked by the statement as well, but it’s true. I have the complete honor of marrying the most incredible man, and I want to shout it from the rooftops and tell every single person that wants to know. The surprising part is how quickly and how perfectly right it happened.
If you know anything about my story, which I shared once on this space and decided to take down, is that I’ve been a single mother to Tad since I learned that I was going to have him. The story was still too fresh, and my feelings on the topic have changed and matured over time. For the most part, I try to not share too much of my personal journey in love here on the blog, because well, it is personal. And I respect my son, so much. He is everything in my world and while what happened to us stinks, big time, he deserves to know that he is good and whole and beautiful no matter where he came from. Tad, you mean so much to me and I will love you always.
To make a long story short, I found out that I was pregnant with Tad a couple of weeks before I was supposed to move into my freshman college dorm room. I had been dating the same person since high school and had moved back to Illinois from Texas to spend the summer together before we started at the same undergrad. My pregnancy was a complete surprise, and apparently it surprised my then boyfriend too much because he decided to not be a part of it - at all. I was open to and could have chosen any path with the tiny baby growing in my womb, but I ultimately decided that I wanted him and would do whatever I needed to make sure that he had a happy life. After many, many failed dates and hopefuls and maybes… I figured that I would be leading him through life by myself, with my amazing parents nearby to help and our dear friends and community surrounding us as well. We met amazing people, so many people that had been through the exact same journey as me. We started this business that was born out of “what if” and inspired by my son. I found my true passions and created a lifestyle that seemed unattainable those many years ago when I held a positive pregnancy test and had no idea what I wanted or where to go. We joined a church! We made friends who are more like family. We’ve lived and loved so beautifully these part four years.
And then, somehow, Kyle walked into our lives unexpectedly and absolutely perfectly.
We met online. On Bumble actually. It makes me feel so uncomfortable to say it, honestly, because I have never been the type of person to believe in or be interested in online dating. Especially through apps! I mean, they definitely have a certain stigma, am I right? The fact that I even bring it up is because, well, I think there’s some hope in the fact that it’s where we “met.” I had two main reasons to even try Bumble in the first place:
A neighbor stopped in the shop one day and after asking me why I was still single, to which my reply was, “I keep trying! But I’m giving up…” and she told me this really sweet story about two people she knew who met online that ended up being neighbors and were now married with children. It was cute and hopeful.
2. The next was that I was tired of being set up and going on blind dates. My friends are the absolute best. They do so many amazing things to make me happy! Thank you, all of you, for all of those experiences. It was after date number who-knows-what that ended in yet another night of no exchanged phone numbers or any hope in sight that I decided to take matters into my own hands. I joined Bumble because it sounded a little, I don’t know, better.
I think I was on there for two days when Kyle’s profile popped up, and I gave it a shot. I had to talk first so you know how awkwardly that must have gone - ha!
And that’s how we found each other, but we truly met for the first time in a little coffee shop in Iowa City. I knew immediately that I had found someone who had the potential to be right for me. I was smitten and so was he. To make this story short, well, we fell for each other. Kyle and Tad met, and it wasn’t easy at first. That quickly changed - we’ve been missing this piece of our family for a long time!
We are so lucky. Kyle is selfless and helpful, generous and kind. He’s everything I could have dreamed of and more. He’s a chemistry professor, and we get to have the most oddly in depth and nerdy conversations I’ve ever had. We have big plans to run our farm together and continue teaching together at Kirkwood. If you are local and see us at the farmer’s markets, he will be there working it with me! We were meant to be, and as much as I never believed in soulmates before… I know that I found mine!
It was a complete surprise to find him kneeling beside me while I made us breakfast the other morning. I had a meeting and was not in the mood to eat, but he convinced me that we should make our usual fried eggs and some bacon or sausage before we headed out. I obliged, rather crabby, and began frying up the sausages. He kept moving the tray off eggs around the kitchen and asking if I was ready to crack them. When I finally turned around ready to grab the eggs, he had one in his hand, but it was a little different than the others. Instead, it was a wooden egg, cut in half and hinged together, with a space hollowed out to store my ring. It was precious and perfect. We even bought chicks last night to celebrate - ha!
I am so excited to marry my best friend. This life of ours has been such a surprise! We met only a handful of months ago, and while I figured many people would think we were insane to fall in love and now get married so quickly all we have received is praise and love and congratulations. Tad and I just completely adore this man and are so thankful to have him in our lives! After feeling so unworthy of love for the past handful of years and like being a “complete” family was not in the cards for us, it has been such a marvel to me to find someone who loves not only me but my son more.
Thank you to all of you that have followed along with our journey and story for the past four years. I can’t believe that I get to share this incredibly exciting news with you! There will be a fun wedding and wedding planning to be shared here. I cannot wait to begin! Eek! Thank you, thank you, thank you a million.